Tips for Making an Adult Dating Video

adult dating video tipsIf you have thought about making an adult dating video, here are our tips for you. Are you looking for someone to have some fun with? Maybe you want to chat online or consider an adult hookup? If you want to have the best chances of meeting the right person to have some fun with, a strong adult dating video will help you out.

Many of the top online dating sites offer the opportunity to post a video to your profile as another way to introduce yourself to potential matches.  Your online dating video will help people get to know you on a different level than just looking at your pics or reading your profile. They can hear your voice, see your mannerisms and getting a better feel for who you really are. They can also be a lot of fun to make.

While many online dating sites have the option to make videos, some of the most common mistakes happen with adult dating sites. Just because it’s an adult site doesn’t mean you get to make a porno, or that you should. You want your video to be seductive but you also want to leave them wanting more and thus, wanting to contact you.

A great video can draw attention to your video, tell people more about who you are and of course, what you’re looking for in a date or a hook-up.

The best part is that you can set up and record the video in any way that you want to make your video stand out from all the other videos.  If you’re new to making videos, then you might feel intimidated by the process but there are some simple tips to help you along the way. The following are tips for making an online dating video.

Use Proper Lighting in Videos

Having proper lighting in your adult video will make all the difference in the world.  Light from a single bulb is usually very harsh, and you will not look your best.  So here are our lighting tips. Try to light yourself with at least three lights, of equal strength, and at equal distances from you, give or take a foot.  100 watt tungsten bulbs are best, with semi transparent white shades. If you have one 100 watt, and one 50 watt, the 50 watt will look yellower, so try to keep them matched, or close, if possible.  Higher wattage light bulbs give a whiter / bluer light, while lower wattage bulbs light look yellower. The camera is more sensitive to this than your eye. Our eyes automatically remove the coloring and try to make all light sources look natural. But the ability of cameras to do this is limited.

Setup your video camera on a tripod, or on a bookshelf, and make sure the background is lit up as well, and is attractive.  Keep lines in the background straight and even if possible. If the background is not attractive, you can hang a white or light colored bedsheet 4-5 feet behind you. You can also use a sheet to filter light coming through a open window, for a soft, sexy look. Otherwise, you can also bounce light off of a white bedsheet, or the ceiling.  Try to avoid shadows on your face. One suggested lighting setup is one light on your right, about 4-5 feet away, at 45 degrees to your side, and slightly above your eyes (it will highlight your hair slightly).  This light will light the right side of your body or face, as well as part of the front.  The second light will be a slight amount to the left of the camera, just behind it, and also 4-6 feet away.   The third light will be 30-50 degrees to your left, again 4-6 feet away.  If you have more lights, use them, mainly to reduce shadows and even out the lighting.

Audio. For good audio, close off the door to the kitchen, close widows, turn down music.  The microphone on the camera likely will be very sensitive. Practice speaking in a natural but well audible voice.  Adjust your voice as you practice so that it sounds attractive and sexy if you wish. If the sound quality is not what you would like, or there are echoes or noise in the background, attach an external, wired microphone, and clip it to you, or have it 2-3 feet away or closer when you record. Have fun, and watch out for shadows!

Slide Shows are Great

If you are uncomfortable in front of a video camera or you do not like to record your voice, you can always make a slide show video with a favorite song playing over the top.  If you just prefer not to have to look at a video camera while you are recording your voice, you can also use a slide show but instead of music, you can narrate the slide show to explain what you are doing in the photos.  You can use a slideshow to highlight your interests and hobbies by taking photographs of you doing what you like to do while explaining where you are or what the hobby is. It’s not a replacement for an actual video but it can still be more interactive than still photos.

Skip the Script

Whatever you do, never use a script to read what you want to say about yourself.  It’s going to come off cheesy and rehearsed. Plus, if you’re looking down at your script while recording, you’re not going to be connecting with your viewer. You want to look into the camera as if you are talking directly to the person watching.

So while you might write down your thoughts to help you remember what you want to say, you don’t want to actually read from it in the video. Instead, have an outline of the important points you want to make that you can refer to while speaking naturally.

No Nudity

Why would you give them all the goods for free? Sure, it’s an adult dating site but you may want to hold off on the nudity, at least in your intro video. For many people who use these sites, the excitement is in the chase. You want to find people you are interested in and spend some time chatting, seducing and working your way up to an encounter (whether online or offline).

When you are completely nude in your video, you don’t really give the person as much reason to want to talk to you. Also, on some sites (even adult dating sites), full nudity is against the rules in your dating videos. Once you chat privately on Web cam, you can do what you want.

What to Wear

What you choose to wear could have a big part in the impact of the video. If the video is going on an adult site, you might opt for a sultry or seductive outfit in your video but don’t overdo it. You want to give them reason to continue to talk to you and see more.

With an adult dating profile video, you might decide to have some fun with it and do a themed video where you are wearing a fun outfit or role-playing costume. If you’re into that sort of thing and want a match who is as well, then adding it to your video is a great way to show just what you want upfront.

Be Yourself

Some people get nervous making their video and this can lead to you over-promoting yourself. So make sure you are comfortable and that you be yourself. The truth will come out in the long run anyway so why try to oversell or act some way that you are not?

Avoid Messy or Busy Backgrounds

If the area where you plan on taking your video is overly messy or cluttered with decoration you may want to choose another area.  Maybe you’re not getting contacts because your dating video paints a portrait of you as a slob. Is that yesterday’s underwear on the floor in the background? Clean up before you do your video to send the best first impression.

 Do Not Put Your Children in the Video

It may seem like we shouldn’t have to say this one but you would be surprised. There’s nothing wrong with having children but they don’t belong in your adult dating video. Make sure you have a private, uninterrupted area to do your video. Make it when they are not home or lock the door for privacy but whatever you do, make sure your kids are not in your video.


Making a adult video profile is not always easy for some people because they do not like to be on camera and may not like the way they look.  Even if this is an issue for you, there is still the choice of using video on your profile.  If you follow the above tips you will have something that clearly represents you, who you are and what you like to do.

10 Signs the Man You’re Talking to is Married

What heaven!  You met a new man on a dating site and he is simply perfect and you can actually see yourself with him for a long time down the road.  He is everything you want but there is something in the back of your head, a small voice telling you something is just a bit off about him.  This reaction is your instinct talking to you and it is important to listen to it.  There is a chance this wonderful man may be married and you do not even know it.  This may not always be the case and sometimes your inner voice can be wrong but to make sure, check out the 10 signs the man you’re talking to is married:

  1. Inconsistent Behavior – A man who is inconsistent is probably hiding something from you.  If he is supposed to meet you online and then he always has an excuse or a work emergency he probably has a wife who needs his time more than you do.  While there are instances where work can get in the way of dating, if he is inconsistent on a regular basis then there is a high chance that he is not what he claims to be. This is a huge warning sign and one that should not be taken lightly.  It may be little things like where he lives or his living situation that screams out inconsistencies but it is important to pay attention to these things.
  2. His Availability – When does he want to see you or when can you chat with him online?  Does he have weird hours like only late at night or during the day when he is at work?  This can be another huge sign that he is married and is making time for you when he has no distractions or chances of being caught at home. While there are men who have weird working hours, this is something that can be damaging when put together with other signs.
  3. His Answers to Direct Questions – When you are in the getting to know him stage of the relationship and you are chatting with him online, ask him direct personal questions like where did he grow up, what college did he attend and where does he live now.  Keep these questions on hand to ask him again a couple of weeks later and see if his responses match up.  The man who is trying to be what he is not will probably lie initially and you may catch him in those lies.  Just remember to ask questions that someone would not normally lie about and do not ask them all in the same conversation like you are grilling or interrogating him.
  4. Bathroom Habits Say a Lot – Look, at the end of the day, a single man who lives on his own or with male roommates does not have the best bathroom habits.  They leave the toilet seat up because there are no females to put it down for.  A married man may very well put the toilet seat down because his wife prefers him to do this and it is a courtesy he has extended her.  Now this is not to say that a single guy will not be polite and put yours down because it is your place but the odds are he’ll slip up once in a while and accidentally leave the seat up.
  5. Texting Vs Phone Calls – If your man almost always texts you and never calls you unless it is late at night, that is another warning signal.  While texting is perfectly normal for most couples, they also talk on the phone too.  If he is not talking to you on the phone this is because there is someone with him he does not want to overhear your conversation.  This someone is more than likely his wife or his children.  While it is normal when finding love online to take things slow before getting to the phone call stage, too much time before a phone call is a huge red flag.
  6. Weird Sexual Appetite – You have met your man and you have been on dates and you really like him so you both decide it is time for the relationship to become intimate.  When it does, you realize that all of your encounters involve kinky or over the top sexual positions or appetites.  There are men who are only interested in that kind of intimacy but it can also be because he is already getting the normal sex at home and only wants another woman so he can do his experimentation and fantasies with you.
  7. Never Uses a Credit Card –If the man you are dating never ever uses a credit card this is probably because he does not want to leave a paper trail that his will find.  This is a time when most people do not carry around cash particularly when they go out to dinner.  It is a paperless society and there are few people who do not have a debit or credit card.  Now this is not to say that a man cannot carry cash, but if he paying for a room at a bed and breakfast with cash or your weekend cruise was paid for with cash, there is a reason he wants it that way and it has nothing to do with you.
  8. Frequently Drops Offline – Everybody has internet issues and loses their connection at one time or another.  But if you are in the middle of a conversation and he suddenly drops offline with you, he may have to shut down the chat or get caught by his wife.  If this happens frequently, then it is pretty obvious he is married and is simply shutting down his computer so his wife does not see his chat with you.
  9. Only Takes You To the Same Places – A married man is never going to take you to a place that he frequents with his wife.  If they have an active social life this may leave very few places where he can take you to comfortably without worry of getting caught by his wife or her friends.  If you only go out to the same movie theater, the same restaurant or the same side of town, there is a great possibility that he is married and even while you are out, he’s hiding you.
  10. Getting Back to the Instincts – We talked about your instincts in the first section of this article and that is probably your biggest clue.  If it just doesn’t seem right, it probably isn’t.  one or two of the above signs may not be enough to prove a man is married, but if you put many of them together and your instincts are screaming at you, end the relationship and move on with your life.

It is never easy finding out that a man you care about is married and that you are the other woman.  Whatever you do, if he is married, end the relationship no matter what he promises you.  The majority of married men that have affairs never leave their wives for another woman and they are not leaving theirs for you.

How to Make an Adult Online Dating Profile

We are all adults here and know that not everyone joins an online dating site to find true love or the person they want to spend the rest of their lives with.  Some join simply to meet new people to have new experiences with and they have no intention of settling down with anybody.  There is no pressure in this type of dating and the relationships are typically superficial at best.  These are the dating sites where adults to go to meet other adults to have intimate encounters with.

There is certain anonymity to these sites that appeal to singles who want to meet new people but who do not necessarily want to start a long term relationship with.  People go on these sites for this reason but in order to meet people you have to have a profile that really stands out.  The following tips are for making an online adult dating profile that gets attention:

  • Be Anonymous but Careful at the Same Time – Even though you are not looking for a long term relationship, you still need to protect yourself when hooking up with a stranger for a casual encounter.  Do not tell them too much about yourself like your home address or where you work.  This is not really a dating situation so these are not questions you should be asked anyway.  Never put your financial information on your profile or you leave yourself open to exploitation.
  • Set Up a Separate Email – Never use your main or work email when setting up a profile on an adult dating site.  You can be traced very easily by a computer savvy con artist by your email address particularly your work email.  This gives them not only your home address and personal information in your work files, but they also know where you work which can be dangerous if someone gets an unhealthy attachment to you after an encounter.  Setting up an email that has none of your personal information attached to it allows you more anonymity.
  • Be Direct About Your Likes and Dislikes – Since you are basically looking for someone with whom to share intimate relations with, you should let them know up front what turns you on and what turns you off.  Do not be afraid to say no to certain situations that would make you uncomfortable.  You will find someone who wants the same things you do and there are plenty of people out there with the same tastes.  Do not think that you may be turning someone away if you do not share their sexual appetites.
  • Posting Photos – While this is an adult dating site, you still have to remember that these photos are public property once you put them on a website.  If you do not want them used inappropriately or getting into the wrong hands, save the nudity for direct emails or other forms of communication.  While sending any type of nude photo has its risks, you will have a bit more privacy if you send them this way rather than posting them.  If nudity is not an issue for you then you can certainly post all you want but remember the photos should be up to date ones so your potential partner sees the real you.

The internet is a wonderful place and there is so much technology today that it seems almost silly not to post a video on your adult dating website.  Now, you may think that the same rules apply here as to posting photographs and you would be right.  Videos, however, come with their own set of issues so it is important to get separate tips on how to make a really good video that does not scare off any potential intimate partner.

  • Clothing Optional – Just as with the photos, your video is clothing optional and totally up to what you are comfortable with.  And just like your photo, this will be online and anyone who views your profile can also view your video.  Think about how this concept makes you feel before choosing one way or another.  For some, it is a turn on to know a complete stranger is checking you out without you even knowing and for others this can make them very uncomfortable.
  • Where to Film – You want your video to be a great representation of you so you should choose a spot that has good lighting and where you are comfortable.  You can have a friend shoot the video or you can use a tripod or computer video camera and make the video by yourself.  If you plan on using nudity, you will probably want to be in your bed or in a comfortable chair where you can show off your “assets” in their best light.
  • Talk About Yourself – This is where you can really put your best foot forward and let people really get to know you.  While not everyone can write a stunning profile description of them, most people can at least talk and show their personality.  While you may be nervous, try to be yourself and let the people who are looking at the video know who you really are.  Don’t be afraid to talk yourself up either, while there are times when you don’t want to toot your own horn, this is not one of those times.
  • Try for Originality – While there is no prize for being original and you won’t win an academy award for a great adult dating site video, you still want to be as original as possible.  This makes your profile stand out from the others.  Look at other videos and see what other people have posted.  If you see a trend, stay away from it and do something completely different.  This may mean taking more time to post the video but the end results are well worth it.
  • Do Test Runs – Do not be afraid to do a couple test or practice runs to see how the video will turn out when you eventually post it.  You should be honest with yourself about how you look and the flow of the video.  It may take a couple trial runs before you are comfortable in front of the camera and are ready to do a real take.  Do not worry if you still have a couple of “do overs” after you are ready to take the real video.  You will get the perfect video and again, the end result will show your hard work.

Setting up an online dating profile and video does not have to be a chore but you do have to put some work into if you want to make serious connections or any connections at all.  Remember that these profiles are public so what you put out there can be seen by everyone on the site.  If you are uncomfortable with nudity do not feel pressured into posting photographs or video without clothing if you do not want to.  You can always send that content to the person you are interested from the email account you set up for this purpose.  But most of all, remember that this venture into online dating is meant to be fun so, just have fun but be safe about it.